“Why Nice Guys Finish Last: The Dangerous Confusion Between Being Harmless and Being Good”

Unlock the truth behind the five relationship positions women silently beg for—but men almost never try. In this powerful motivational speech by Jessica Opare, you’ll discover what happens when you shift from simply being nice to truly stepping into the role of strength, presence and leadership in your relationship. Learn how understanding these positions changes your value, your connection, and the respect you command. You’ll walk away with actionable lessons about authenticity, emotional investment, and the mental framework most men overlook. : 00:00 – Introduction: What most men miss 02:10 – Position 1: Emotional Anchor – being someone she relies on 05:00 – Position 2: Vision Carrier – having direction she wants to follow 07:20 – Position 3: Presence Maker – showing up when it counts 09:40 – Position 4: Boundary Setter – protecting her and the relationship 11:50 – Position 5: Legacy Builder – building something together beyond today 13:20 – What you must stop doing & how to begin 14:30 – Final challenge & call to rise Why you should watch this: Because it flips the script—this isn’t about tricks or manipulation, it’s about becoming the kind of man who commands genuine respect, deep connection, and meaningful leadership in a relationship. If you’re tired of being overlooked, undervalued, or “just another nice guy,” this video gives you the insight and framework to change the game.