Do this instead of setting New Year's resolutions: a better approach for midlife
New Year’s resolutions often fail, and by midlife, we are over it. In this video, I explain why willpower isn’t the answer and how Human Design offers a more compassionate path forward. In this episode, we talk about: Why most women are not designed for consistent willpower The Heart/Will Center in Human Design and what it means for goal-setting Why midlife requires intention, not discipline How to work with your strategy and authority instead of forcing change The power of one-degree pivots and self-celebration This is for women in midlife who are tired of starting over — and ready to become who they’re meant to be next. 00:00 – Welcome + real-life midlife energy Painting clothes, exhaustion, holidays, and why this episode is intentionally “short and real” 02:45 – Why this New Year feels different energetically Capricorn stellium, no Mercury retrograde, and the collective push to do more 04:30 – Why traditional New Year’s resolutions are dying Midlife honesty, burnout with “starting over,” and why many women are opting out 05:40 – The Human Design truth about willpower Why most people don’t have consistent willpower — and why that matters 07:10 – Heart / Will Center explained (without jargon) Desire, worth, and why beating yourself up makes no sense energetically 08:45 – Why midlife requires a different approach to change Cyclical energy, self-compassion, and letting go of checklist culture 09:30 – Heart-centered intentions vs. resolutions Who are you becoming in this phase of life? 10:15 – One-degree pivots instead of total life overhauls Small, sustainable shifts that actually stick 11:00 – Real-life example: caring for your body without self-punishment Food, alcohol, green juice, and choosing devotion over shame 12:15 – Tracking progress for celebration (not control) Why noticing what you are doing changes everything 13:10 – Celebrating yourself as medicine Self-acknowledgment, worthiness, and rewiring the heart center 14:10 – Strategy & Authority: the most important HD pieces Why intentions must align with how you’re designed to decide and act 15:05 – The power of white space in midlife Why your calendar needs breathing room for alignment 16:20 – Why generators (and all types) need unplanned time Responding to life instead of forcing outcomes 17:10 – Undefined vs. defined Heart Center PSA Why inconsistency is not a failure — it’s design 18:20 – Ending the cycle of self-criticism Why the new year is about easing in, not beating yourself up 19:05 – Becoming her Who is the woman you’re becoming, and what choices does she make? 19:45 – Closing + gentle send-off 🔗 Planning by (Human) Design system/planner: https://www.lorilisai.com/planning-by... 🔗 Intention-setting Workshop with Kim Horton: https://forms.gle/Aerah3pgHVR5eaPUA 🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter 🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport
