Why Starting Something New Feels So Hard (+ How To Fix It)
🎤Watch my TEDx talk, now live on the official TEDx channel: • How to actually change your habits | Kim F... In it, I share the deeper reason lasting change can feel so difficult — and why true transformation starts not just with what we do, but with who we believe we are. Stepping into something new can feel incredibly uncomfortable. Whether it’s golf, public speaking, starting a business, or putting yourself out there online, so many of us hold ourselves back because we’re afraid of looking inexperienced, awkward, or not “good enough.” 🎙️ In this conversation, I sit down with golf coach Shayain to explore the psychology behind learning new skills as an adult. We talk about: -The fear of looking foolish or feeling “behind” everyone else -Identity shifts, self-belief, and the power of claiming a new version of yourself -Feeling like you don’t belong in certain spaces, and how to move through that discomfort -The importance of community, accountability, and finding people who support your growth -Why it’s never too late to reinvent yourself or start something completely new And so much more! ⛳ Even if you have no intention of picking up a golf club, this conversation will give you the tools to move through self-doubt and embrace being a beginner in whatever arena you'd like to step into. 💛 xo Dr. Kim ✨ Download the FREE Self-Sabotage Recovery Guide https://drkimfoster.lpages.co/self-sa... ___________________________ //WHAT TO WATCH NEXT ✧ Give me 17 minutes and I'll show you how to reinvent yourself • Give me 17 minutes and I'll show you how t... ✧ How To Stop Talking Yourself Out Of The Life You Want • How To Stop Talking Yourself Out Of The Li... ✧ Give me 13 minutes and I'll eliminate your SELF-DOUBT forever • Give me 13 minutes and I'll eliminate your... ___________________________ ☕Website | https://drkimfoster.com Instagram | / drkimfoster ___________________________ //RESOURCES 💡 Learn more about Dr. Kim Foster and find resources to help you master the art of living well: https://drkimfoster.com 📸Follow Dr. Kim on Instagram and get a BTS look at the latest tips & strategies for a life well-lived: / drkimfoster 00:00 Why Starting Feels Awkward 01:08 Meet Shayain, Golf Coach! 02:10 Beginner Nerves And Perfection 06:56 Belonging And Vulnerability 14:44 Progress Needs Realistic Goals 20:16 Consistency Over Intensity 21:45 Accountability And Personality 25:30 Claiming The Golfer Identity 30:48 Women Belonging And Stigma 34:45 Gender Differences In Confidence 37:41 Breaking The “Belonging” Myth 40:16 No Women Role Models? 41:18 The “Not Good Enough” Myth 43:11 Choose Yourself First 45:54 Discomfort Without Phones 48:28 Too Old To Start? 50:34 Greece Retreat Lessons 54:38 Acceptance And Confidence 01:07:40 How To Begin in Golf 01:13:04 Get more from me! DISCLAIMER: This post & video is designed for educational and/or informational purposes only and should not be used in any other manner. This information is not intended to substitute individualized medical advice. You should not use this information to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease without consulting with a qualified health care provider. A consultation with your health care professional is the appropriate method to address your health concerns. You are encouraged to consult your health care provider with any questions or concerns you may have regarding your condition. Starting new activities as an adult often leads to overthinking and a feeling of being out of place. This video explores the challenges of personal development and how self doubt can hold us back, using my recent experience learning how to play golf as a relatable example. Join me to understand how to overcome self doubt and embrace new beginnings, even if you're a beginner golf enthusiast. 💛 xo Dr. Kim
