How Core Beliefs Block Self-Compassion and Healing #mindhealth

The hardest person to show compassion to is often yourself. As a counselor and author of Not Good Enough Understanding Your Core Belief and Anxiety, I’ve seen countless clients struggle with self-criticism, unrealistic expectations, and the deep-rooted belief that they’re simply not enough. This book has helped so many people to see themselves in a new light. Click here to learn more ➡️ trobakholistic.org/general-1 We all know how to be kind to others, but when it comes to ourselves, that same compassion disappears. You might tell yourself you need to do better, to push harder, to fix every flaw and while that drive can seem productive, it’s often an unconscious form of self-sabotage. It keeps you trapped in the same core belief that says I’m not good enough, not important, not valued. This video explores how anxiety, core beliefs, and expectations intertwine to create an ongoing struggle against yourself and how learning self-compassion is not weakness but the foundation for genuine change. Many of my clients notice that their negative self-talk feels automatic. It’s not that they consciously want to be hard on themselves; it’s that the belief of inadequacy runs deep. When you unconsciously expect failure, you set the bar so high that success becomes impossible ensuring you’ll confirm that painful core belief all over again. That cycle reinforces anxiety, perfectionism, and emotional exhaustion. True compassion breaks that loop. It’s not about ignoring mistakes or pretending everything is fine. It’s about holding space for your imperfections while still believing you’re good enough, important, and valued. That shift doesn’t happen overnight but it’s possible, and it’s powerful. Here’s what we’ll cover in this video Why self-compassion feels uncomfortable when your belief says you’re not enough. How unrealistic expectations and self-sabotaging patterns maintain your anxiety. Practical strategies for building self-kindness that lasts. How to notice when you’re unconsciously sabotaging your progress. Simple ways to reframe the not good enough belief into a more supportive one. When you challenge your core beliefs, you create emotional space for growth. That doesn’t mean abandoning accountability, it means redefining success in a way that doesn’t depend on punishment. You can still strive to do better without tearing yourself apart in the process. Imagine treating yourself like someone you deeply care about. What would change What would feel different if you met your struggles with understanding instead of criticism. That's the heart of self-compassion, learning to respond to pain with empathy, not judgment. In therapy, we see how anxiety often thrives on self-rejection. When you start practicing self-acceptance, the nervous system calms, the symptoms of anxiety ease, and you begin to feel safe being yourself. That’s where true healing happens not when everything is perfect, but when you finally allow yourself to be human. If this message resonates, take a moment to breathe. Notice how often your thoughts tell you you’re not enough. Then remind yourself you’re doing your best with what you have, and that’s good enough. #selfcompassion #anxiety #healingjourney #mentalhealth #therapy #selfawareness #corebeliefs #selflove #emotionalhealing #innerpeace #mindfulness #selfgrowth #mentalwellness #overcominganxiety #therapytools