Black Men vs Black Women: Esther Perel Tries to Save Black Love

What happens when the Black Gender War sits on a couch and tries to speak the same language? Esther Perel sits down with a couple whose story mirrors the real battle lines of the Black gender war. Love, resentment, silence, survival — they both want connection but speak different languages of care. This is the cycle so many Black men and women are trapped in. Can therapy break the pattern — or is Black Love built to break?    • I Can't Love You the Way You Want Me ...   In this episode, we break down a real therapy session where love languages meet wound words — and survival strategies get mistaken for intimacy. This couple isn’t poor. They’re not uneducated. They’re not even disconnected from love. They’re disconnected from listening. And that’s the story for a lot of us. We talk about: • The limits of love languages without emotional fluency • High-functioning professionals with low-functioning emotional skills • The universal nature of relationship breakdown — across race, class, and wealth • And how trauma teaches us to survive love, but never surrender to it This isn’t just a Black problem. This isn’t just a relationship problem. This is what happens when people fight to be right instead of fighting to be relatable. Let’s talk about it. #BlackLove #EstherPerel #BlackMenVsBlackWomen #WoundWords #LoveLanguages #RelationshipTherapy #BlackCouples