The Secret to Being a "Cool Parent": Just DON'T DO THIS! Psychologist Larisa Surkova

Have you ever caught yourself thinking you're "not good enough" as a mom? Afraid of making a mistake that will harm your child in the future, or worried that you've already "broken everything" and there's nothing you can do to fix it? Breathe easy! This episode isn't another accusation, but an honest, supportive, and incredibly practical guide to the biggest parenting mistakes that are actually very easy to avoid. We compiled it for you together with Larisa Surkova, a PhD in psychology, practicing psychologist, and, most importantly, a mother of seven. We covered all ages, from infancy to high school, and this conversation can become your cheat sheet for raising a happy, not a "convenient," child. You'll learn how not to stifle your child's independence with anxiety, what fatal phrase you shouldn't say after a tantrum to prevent it from recurring, and what actions we take to teach our children to lie. And finally, you'll understand why making mistakes is normal not only for children but also for parents. This means we all always have the chance to become the coolest moms and dads. Yulia Menshova's Social Media Telegram: https://t.me/JuliaMenshovaJulia VK Community: https://vk.com/samamenshova Rutube https://rutube.ru/u/samamenshova/ Yandex Zen: https://dzen.ru/samamenshova Instagram*:   / juliavmenshova   00:00:00 In this episode 00:01:02 Instructions or another accusation? 00:01:58 What's normal for a child under two years old? 00:03:53 Is it normal to get angry at a baby because of lack of sleep? 00:04:36 What question stumped the mother of twins? 00:05:28 "You're too big, I can't pick you up." 00:07:33 Does a "good mom" have a perfect child? 00:09:22 Why is it more important for a two-year-old to make a mistake than to do it "right"? 00:10:56 Why does a child only eat pasta and sausages? 00:11:59 "How can I avoid teaching my child that the world is dangerous?" 00:14:00 How do we teach our children to achieve everything through tantrums? 00:17:23 How to respond to tantrums correctly? 00:18:53 What phrase should you never say to a child after a tantrum? 00:20:35 What secret did Yulia's son tell her 25 years later? 00:21:24 Why are children afraid of clowns? 00:21:45 How to deal with tantrums after 5 years? 00:22:38 Mom forbade it, but Dad allowed it: what are the consequences? 00:25:45 Why shouldn't parents argue in front of their child? 00:27:55 What should we do if a child says, "I don't love you"? 00:31:14 How do we teach our children to blackmail us with love? 00:33:03 Why shouldn't we compare a child to other children? 00:34:49 Why does a child constantly ask, "Do you love me?" 00:35:23 How can we avoid "killing" a child's desire to learn in first grade? 00:37:57 Why is it useless to teach children from other people's mistakes? 00:40:14 How can we really help a child with homework? 00:42:07 How do we teach our children to lie? 00:43:31 How to respond to bad grades? 00:44:22 Is the ability to scream more important than the ability to remain silent? 00:46:05 How does shame prevent parents from saving their children? 00:47:46 "Ask the column": why is this phrase a warning sign? 00:50:08 Romance with AI vs. real relationships 00:52:33 First love. What mistakes do parents make? 00:53:33 Why should a teenager be hugged the same way as a three-year-old? 00:54:57 Is a ten-year-old already a teenager? 00:56:31 Teenagers. Trust or control? 00:58:40 What to do if a teenager won't tell you where they've been? 01:01:37 How to stop a wardrobe war with a teenager? 01:03:45 Are you criticizing or crippling? 01:05:12 How can you replace criticism with constructive conversation? 01:07:27 How do parents ignore their children's emotional needs? 01:11:32 Is it possible to "reset" your relationship with your child? #psychology #menshova #samamenshova *Instagram is owned by the American company Meta, which has been declared extremist and is banned in the Russian Federation.