Why do people cheat, can couples repair trust after an affair? In this episode we explores infidelity, emotional affairs, attachment theory, and the complex emotions of betrayal. Can we be friends with our EX? • Can We Be Friends With Our EX Lovers?... 🔎 Topics Covered: ✅ Types of Affairs: Emotional, Physical, Financial, & Online Affairs ✅ Attachment Theory & Infidelity: How Childhood Influences Relationship Choices ✅ Limerence & The Science of Attraction: Why Some Affairs Feel Addictive ✅ Healing After Cheating: Steps to Rebuild Trust & Navigate Forgiveness ✅ The Role of Transparency & Boundaries in Preventing Affairs ✅ Gottman’s Four Horsemen of Relationship Breakdown & How to Fix It 🎧 Listen to the full episode & subscribe for more deep conversations on relationships, psychology, and change. Additional Help: Esther Perel: "Rethinking Infidelity: A Talk for Anyone Who Has Ever Loved" (TED Talk): In this insightful talk, Esther Perel explores the complexities of infidelity, discussing why people cheat and how couples can navigate the aftermath. Watch the TED Talk • Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for ... "Infidelity: Why I Wrote a Book About America's Most Controversial Topic": Perel discusses the ubiquity of infidelity and the importance of addressing it openly. Read the Article: https://www.estherperel.com/blog/infi.... John Gottman: "The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling": Gottman identifies four detrimental communication behaviours that can predict the end of a relationship and offers insights into recognising and addressing them. Read the Article: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four... "The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes": This piece provides strategies to counteract the Four Horsemen behaviors, promoting healthier communication patterns in relationships. Read the Article: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four... These resources offer profound insights into understanding and improving relationship dynamics, particularly concerning infidelity and communication challenges. 📌 Timestamps: 00:00 Understanding Infidelity: A Complex Topic 02:52 Physical vs Emotional Affairs: What’s the Difference? 05:59 Limerence: The Science of Obsessive Love & Affairs 09:02 Types of Infidelity: Beyond the Obvious Signs 12:06 The Role of Remorse in Repairing Relationships 14:51 Why Too Many Details About an Affair Can Be Harmful 18:02 How Affairs Begin: The Cup of Tea Syndrome 21:13 Online Affairs & The New Challenges in Modern Relationships 23:48 The Importance of Intimacy in Relationship Repair 26:51 Vulnerability & Communication: The Key to Preventing Affairs 31:48 Navigating the Emotional Pain & Grief Cycle of Infidelity 37:25 Forgiveness & Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal 40:54 The Role of Transparency & Boundaries in Relationships 45:27 Can Relationships Grow After Infidelity? 🔗 Follow us on: 🎙️ The Paradox of Change Podcast: https://theparadoxofchange.buzzsprout... 📲 Instagram: / theparadoxofchange 📺 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange 📢 If you’ve experienced infidelity or are working through trust issues, let us know your thoughts in the comments! ⬇️ https://linktr.ee/theparadoxofchange 💔 why did my boyfriend cheat on me? 💔 why did my girlfriend cheat on me? 💔 why did my partner cheat on me?