Why the Awakened Suddenly Disappear - Alan Watts

In this profound examination of love and relationships, Alan Watts reveals the "fatal mistake" that leads to heartbreak: treating love as a conditional contract or a business deal. We are taught to look for guarantees, turning the spontaneous joy of connection into an endless "performance" and an "arrangement" that is destined to fail. Discover the liberating truth of Unconditional Love: The Ego's Trap: The pain of a breakup is not caused by the betrayal of love, but by the ego's demand for control. It hurts because a cherished image of the other person was contradicted. Love vs. Appetite: Conditional love vanishes the moment circumstances shift, proving it belongs to appetite (thèm muốn), not truth. True love, by contrast, is closer to awareness than to emotion. Fullness, Not Lack: Conditional love says "I need you." Unconditional love says "I choose you because I am already whole". It arises from fullness, not from lack. The Puppy Analogy: Learn the "Puppy Analogy" to instantly understand what effortless, non-demanding love feels like, proving the feeling arises within you, not from the other's behavior. Freedom, Not Submission: Unconditional love does not mean submitting to harm or tolerating disrespect. It means you can set boundaries and leave without hatred or bitterness. Love is not a promise in legal language; it is music and a dance, where every moment of meeting is the point. The ultimate truth is: Love is what you are. Timestamps: 00:00 - The Warning: Love That Can Be Lost 00:27 - Heartbreak is The Ego's Demand for Control 01:03 - The Confusion: Possession vs. Affection 01:29 - Conditional Love is an Appetite, Not Truth 02:43 - The Relationship Mask: Playing a Role 03:06 - The Silent Condition: "Remain Who I Believe You Are" 04:14 - Unconditional Love Begins With Seeing 05:02 - Humans Are Events, Not Objects to Be Owned 05:41 - The Moment Conditional Love Says "No" 07:27 - Love Arises from Fullness, Not Lack 07:53 - Unconditional Love Awakens Within Yourself 08:34 - The Puppy Analogy: Love Without a Reason 11:34 - The Mistake: Love is a Business Deal 12:22 - You Cannot Demand Proof of Love 13:48 - The Tangle of Endless Rules 15:45 - The Lie: "I Love You" Often Means "I Want to Have You" 17:23 - Real Love is a Dance, Not a Chain 18:43 - Misunderstanding: Love is NOT Self-Betrayal or Submission 20:06 - You Can Set Boundaries and Leave Without Hatred 21:16 - The Ultimate Truth: We Are All One Looker 22:43 - Unconditional Love is Waking Up to the Fact That There Was Never Anything Else 23:02 - The Astonishing Truth: Love Is What You Are #AlanWatts #UnconditionalLove #ConditionalLove #Ego #Relationships #Philosophy #NonDuality #EmotionalFreedom