Imagine counting among your friends the person who killed your entire family and not because of any particular feud with them but merely because they belonged to a different tribe! Well, such relationships are common in Rwanda where the government runs a program of integrating 1994 genocide victims and their aggressors. And as Esther Kahumbi found out in her recent visit, Rwanda offers vital lessons on how to foster reconciliation in Kenya and other countries dogged by ethnic strife