You can't focus because you fight useless battles.

𝗖𝗢𝗠𝗠𝗘𝗡𝗧 𝗙𝗟𝗢𝗪 𝗜𝗙 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗪𝗔𝗡𝗧 𝗛𝗘𝗟𝗣 𝟭:𝟭 Flow🐺Wolf (FREE NEWSLETTER): https://t.co/o4i1yfcpfI Every week, psychology insights to perform better, while enjoying the journey. I won't waste your time: only real VALUE. Also, after you sign up, I have a FREE 𝐆𝐈𝐅𝐓 for you... Check out my X for more daily psychology: https://x.com/DANI_NOV4 ___________________________ “Play long-term games with long-term people.” Naval ravikant People suffer and can’t focus cause they keep fighting stupid battles instead of improving their lives. Stop fighting the wrong battles. And what does this mean? Only fight when you actually lose something by not fighting. If someone for example einsults you verbally, 1) you’re not losing anything. 2) The more you react, the more you’re making the insulter win. These people find pleasure by trying to get a reaction from you. So, the more disorganized your reaction is, the more you’re actually losing. Reaction = FEELING OF DANGER Think about this biologically. You see it in nature too. Usually, the bigger nd stronger the animal, the smaller the reaction. Why? Cause he doesn’t feel in danger. He doesn’t feel the need to waste his neergies. Always keep in mind this psychology and biology principle. Energies, both physical and psychological, are limited. Think about signal and noise too. Don’t waste your energies on noise, which is defending yourself when actually the best defense is staying calm. So as soon as you react, you’re giving away your power. As soon as you shift your focus to an insult, you’re losing signal and you’re focusing on noise. Not only you make the other person win: you’re losing your own capacity to focus on signal later. For example, let’s say I receive a hateful comment here on YT. The bigger the reaction, the more my focus gets shifted from the projects and the people I deeply care about. Let’s say I get enraged at this comment, I insult him back. Then all my attention is invested into his comment. And not on my passions. Not on doing what I love, not on spending quality time with people I love. My mind is somewhere else. I’m thinking about him. I’m making him bigger than he actually deserves to be. I’m in a lower, more primitive mental state, full of hate, and not of bliss and presence. The more someone can capture your attention, the more it matters. Just think about that with the evolutionary approach. We pay attention to the strongest animal. Never to weaker ones. So if you let someone steal your attention, you’re just accepting to be dominated by him. You’re just making yourself the prey. Also, Attention is like an incvestment. Where you spend it, is where your mind will remain. So the more you get enraged, the more your focus will be coloured by that negative comment. Something that didn’t deserve your attention, is now commanding Your mood Your actions Your whole life experience So stop fighting the wrong battles. So once you start thinking like that, you realize you have the power to change your whole reality, simply by changing where you invest your mental energies. You start becoming aware that each event in your life hides a choice. Is this a battle worth the fight? The less external battles you fight, the more likely you’ll be to win your main battle. Also, there’s a funny paradox. think about your identity. The more you feel an URGE to defend and justify yourself and your choices, the weaker you are as a person. As an actor in this world. The more you defend them, the more you THINK YOU NEED TO DEFEND THEM. Which means, the less you believe in them. Cause if you think what you’re doing is valid, and right, why feeling the need to defend it? People who are truly confident, don’t even feel the need to defend themselves. Cause they know they are invulnerable to attacks. The more the random noise around you disturbs you, the bigger the reaction it provokes from you, the weaker you are in your identity and self belief. You’ll notice by yourself the strongest people out there don’t feel any urge to prove themselves. They know they matter. Their whole presence implies meaning. Their whole way to exist doesn’t require them to tell you they are great. Cause they simply are. They never feel threatened. They always feel at ease with their surroundings, no matter how much hate they receive. Therefore, the sage embraces the One, And is an example to the world. He does not show off, therefore he shines. He does not justify himself, therefore he is revered. He does not boast, therefore he is honored. He does not praise himself, therefore he remains. Because he opposes no one, No one in the world can oppose him. I know for sure you know one of these dudes, They never brag. Never. Yet paradoxically they are respected by everyone. Whatever they do is never to gain other people approval, yet they always get it. This is the paradox. Those who get the most recognition are not always those who seek recognition.