ADHD, Rejection Sensitivity & Losing Everything | Real Life Tools That Actually Help
If you constantly feel behind, overwhelmed, and terrified of being judged — this episode explains why (and what actually helps with ADHD). If you have ADHD and feel like everything is harder than it should be, this solo episode will feel deeply validating. In this candid conversation, Kristen Carder shares behind-the-scenes updates on writing her upcoming book, navigating rejection sensitivity, and managing the very real nervous-system challenges that come with ADHD. You’ll hear: ➡️Why writing, starting, and following through are so hard with ADHD ➡️What rejection sensitivity actually feels like in the body ➡️How “bracing for impact” shows up in social and professional situations ➡️Why shaming yourself doesn’t work (and what helps instead) ➡️A listener question about constantly losing things — and practical ADHD-friendly solutions ➡️How time urgency and panic make ADHD organization harder ➡️A surprising tool Kristen uses to reduce phone distraction and regulate her nervous system This episode is honest, compassionate, and full of real-life ADHD strategies — not hustle culture, not “try harder” advice. Chapters: 00:00 – Welcome Back to a Solo Episode 02:10 – Writing a Book with ADHD (Why It’s So Hard) 08:05 – Vulnerability, Exposure & “Two Things Can Be True” 13:40 – Why Berating Yourself Doesn’t Work with ADHD 19:25 – ADHD, PDA Tendencies & Creating Autonomy 25:10 – Rejection Sensitivity & the CHADD Conference 33:40 – “Bracing for Impact”: How RSD Shows Up in the Body 40:15 – How Kristen Supported Her Nervous System 48:30 – Caller Question: Losing Everything with ADHD 55:10 – Practical Systems for Not Losing Your Stuff 1:04:20 – ADHD, Time Urgency & Panic 1:10:30 – The Brick Device: Reducing Phone Distraction 1:20:00 – Final Thoughts & Encouragement Also check out: -Kristen's Website | https://ihaveadhd.com/home -Kristen's Instagram | / i.have.adhd.podcast -ADHD Symptoms | https://ihaveadhd.com/adhdsymptoms -Get the FREE Perfectionism Course | https://ihaveadhd.com/perfectionism -Subscribe to the I Have ADHD Podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify | https://ihaveadhd.com/podcasts -Get coached by Kristen in FOCUSED | https://ihaveadhd.com/focusedcoaching #ADHD #ADHDAdults #RejectionSensitivity #RSD #Neurodivergent #ADHDLife #ADHDPodcast #KristenCarder #ExecutiveDysfunction #ADHDTools #Neurodiversity
