Repairing a Broken Relationship: It’s Not Too Late | The Mel Robbins Podcast
Order my new book, The Let Them Theory 👉 https://bit.ly/let-them 👈 It will forever change the way you think about relationships, control, and personal power. It all begins with two simple words: Let Them. 🔥 — In this episode, you are going to learn that it is never too late to try to repair a broken or difficult #relationship. The research shows that #estrangement is not only on the rise but that the majority of us have at least one extended family member or friend who is estranged. I know this is true in my extended family, and I also have friends who are estranged from their parents. Whether you’re the person who has cut off contact or if you're the one sitting there wondering why someone you love did, our episode today will give you the language, tools, and context to start moving towards understanding and #healing. Dr. Joshua Coleman (@dr.joshuacoleman4216) is a #psychologist and best-selling author who works with families to repair broken bonds and help them reconcile and improve difficult or estranged relationships. In fact, according to Dr. Coleman, the strategies he is sharing with you work, and the statistics are in your favor. I hope you share this with anyone you know who is dealing with a difficult relationship. It is very common, especially after a divorce and even when someone has a new spouse or significant other. When someone you love suddenly pulls away or cuts you out of their life, you need tools and a playbook for how to reach out, exactly what to say (and not to say), and when you need to stop reaching out. Today you’ll learn: Why estrangement is on the rise How some therapists are encouraging estrangement What to do if you’re the sibling The role that mental illness, addiction, divorce, and new spouses play The #1 reason Dr. Coleman sees adult children as estranged parents is due to divorce between parents. Xo, Mel In this episode: 00:00 Intro 01:42 The silent epidemic that’s happening right now is estrangement. 03:13 What is estrangement? 10:22 The horrible advice for estrangement Dr. Coleman got in therapy. 16:52 What moving towards a child's trauma looks like 18:48 The most common complaint adult children have for their parents 22:32 One of the most common pathways to estrangement 24:45 The most common mistakes estranged parents make 29:53 Why radical acceptance is a required step in reconnecting 33:51 Let’s unpack why guilt doesn’t work. 38:34 What to do when reconciliation isn’t desired by the other person 40:55 What are the steps towards reconciliation? 44:02 Why Dr. Coleman says that parents have a moral obligation to take the high road 52:47 What is an amends letter, and how should you write it? 55:54 What to do if you’re the sibling 1:02:05 When you should stop reaching out for reconciliation 1:06:51 The hopeful message you need to leave with Listen to the #podcast episode "Is It Too Late? How to Repair a Broken Relationship With Your Friend or Family Member" - https://link.chtbl.com/DAinFkFf?sid=e... — Catch full episodes of The Mel Robbins Podcast here on YouTube https://bit.ly/tmrp_playlist 📺 Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast while you're on-the-go! https://link.chtbl.com/DAinFkFf?sid=l... 🎧 Available wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts. New episodes drop every Monday (to start your week) and Thursday (to get you through it). — Subscribe to the channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?su... — Follow me here: Instagram: / melrobbins TikTok: / uck2u-oqn7rxf-ydpqfsxg5g Facebook: / melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for my weekly newsletter at https://www.melrobbins.com/newsletter — Looking for my books on Amazon? Here they are! High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/3372Rl9
