FEAR OF JUDGMENT MAKING YOU BLUSH? Codependency & Blushing and how it contributes to a blotchy chest
My Instagram friend, Julia, sent this to me: "As a codependent myself I’ve been understanding how much we are control freaks and how much we want to control how people see us. I think codependents are so self aware that the blushing is the result of that and all of our criticism. It really hit me. Don't you feel self conscious when people are staring at you while you need to perform, especially at work? The more we stay with ourselves the better. When we try to control the scene and the outcomes, the blushing happens." This comment left me stunned. Julia is SO RIGHT! Trying to control how other perceive us is a survival skill, so no wonder our nervous systems go nuts when we are fearing judgement and afraid we won't measure up. We are always scaling the land to see if we are doing 'good'. For so many of us, 'good' means we are accepted and will survive and we learned this from our childhoods. Here's a clip of me after I got off of a call with my boss - who I adore and he adores me. But still. He's an authority figure who 'holds the power' and therefore I try to control how I'm perceived by him so that I can 'survive'. Fear of judgement is so very complicated! What a twisted web we weave, friends. Interested in my shirt or something similar?! Blushing Phoenix Awareness & Support Merch here: https://shop.spreadshirt.com/blushing... Help Support The Channel and Mission of Blushing Phoenix: Blushing Blend Herbal Loose-Leaf Tea (can only ship to US customers only). Be sure to use discount code: blushingphoenix at checkout for 10% off your purchase. https://www.blushingphoenix.com/blush... My book, Pressing Forward. Pushing Through Fear and Anxiety to Find My Truest Self: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/099... Instagram: / blushing_ph… Intro Music Credit: www.bensound.com ***Disclaimers*** I am not a doctor, therapist, or mental health professional. This material is based on my life experiences and further research for educational purposes. ALWAYS seek advice from a medical professional before making any final decisions in regards to your health. I'm here to share info with you, encourage and empower you as you navigate YOUR OWN journey with blushing, flushing, and erythrophobia. You are not alone. We are not alone. We have each other. Links included in this description might be affiliate links. If you purchase a product or service with the links that I provide I may receive a small commission. There is no additional charge to you! Thank you for supporting Blushing Phoenix so I can continue to provide you with free content and resources.
